Spanking safely is important - if you are new please read FAQ before spanking.

Duration of spanking is more about the number of strokes and the intensity of the hits than it is about the length of time it takes. The harder you are hitting, the less strokes it will take to reach the desired level of physical and mental impact. The frequency of spanking depends on the reason for the spanking. As a general rule, it is most useful in training your man to choose more frequent spankings over more serious spankings, but with a proper balance, you will be able to enjoy frequent and serious spankings while maintaining safety and well-being. The three types of spankings - maintenance, disciplinary, and pleasure - and the reason behind them is the most important factor in choosing the severity and duration.



Maximize Your Effectiveness
You can use the color of your man's bottom to gauge the level of mental effect your spanking is achieving. The more memorable you make each spanking, the greater the benefit it will be for you and your man. Spreading out the spanking evenly across every area of his bottom will reduce the appearance of blood from welts or cuts from your implement. This will allow you to spank longer, and harder, while preserving the overall integrity of the skin so he will be ready for your next spanking. With the right balance, you can ensure that every time your man sits down, he will be thinking of you and your loving discipline. You can also maximize your effectiveness and total strokes by using a variety of implements in one spanking.




Making Him Cry
Spankings of every level of severity have psychological benefit for training your man, regardless of his ability to maintain his emotional composure. It is also true that you will never make more valuable progress in training through spanking than every time you push him beyond his threshold for tears. Not every spanking needs to be about whether he cries or not, and certainly your interest in reaching tears may vary greatly from one type of spanking to another. Some women believe spanking to tears is too much, while others believe that reaching tears is a sign the spanking has worked and should end. Still others believe that spanking is just warm up until tears are reached, and only then does the actual teaching spanking begin. No matter how serious you are about spanking, remember to break your man in over time, and not to go from zero to sixty right away.



Maintenance Spanking
The cornerstone of spanking therapy is the maintenance spanking. This is a regular spanking administer not for fun or punishment, but for mental conditioning. These spankings not only emphasize your authority, but also build his stamina, while releasing pleasing endorphins in his mind, which help him learn to associate pleasing and obeying you with both pain and pleasure. Your man in chastity shouldn't be offending you enough to warrant discipline spankings on a regular basis. Maintenance spanking is frequent preemptive discipline that deals with the little things of day to day attitude, actions, and motivations that could use a little tuning up. Establish regular maintenance and you will see very noticeable improvement in behaviour, attitude, and overall enthusiasm. No matter how good your man gets, stick with your maintenance regiment and he will just keep improving. Just because these spankings serve a necessary and functional purpose does not mean they won't be fun, rather it should be quite the opposite. The frequency of maintenance spankings varies greatly, but the majority fall between daily and weekly. The intensity and duration of these spankings also varies greatly, from low to high.





Disciplinary Spanking
Disciplinary spankings, also known as punishment spankings, or corporal punishment, are usually less common than maintenance spankings, but are perhaps the most essential. They establish you as the source of the pain he fears as well as the pleasure he craves, motivating his entire mindset. It is vital that he understands that serious matters have serious consequences, and that it is as important not to displease you as it is to please you. Always make sure he knows why he is being punished, so he can learn from his mistake, correct his behavior, grow as person, and strengthen your relationship. For best results, make certain the spanking is severe enough that he learns the lesson. The frequency of disciplinary spankings varies depending on how minor an infraction you wish to punish, but for most who reserve such spankings for more major incidents, these spankings should be infrequent, and more so the longer he is yours. The intensity and duration of these spankings also varies depending on the severity and nature of his infraction, but generally speaking range from mid to extreme.






Pleasure Spanking
Spanking your man is a great deal of fun, and there is no reason to feel limited by schedules to enjoy it. Adding additional spankings in any situation or style only increases the over all effectiveness of your training, reinforcing your authority and control. Spanking can be enjoyed while you play or make love, at random unannounced times, through additional spanking sessions above and beyond maintenance, and any other time you decide. Unlike the other two types, which are about him as much as they are about you, these enjoyment spankings are mostly about you - your fun, your stress relief, your feelings of strength and control, and the deep satisfaction you can get from having your man love you enough to endure some discomfort to bring you joy. Your man should experience great satisfaction in being able to make you happy through in such a simple way. The frequency of pleasure spankings are how ever often you feel like it, which might well become quite often. The intensity and duration of these spankings depends entirely on whatever you feel like at the time, usually from low to high.





Showing Honest Appreciation
No matter the duration, intensity, or reason, your man had better appreciate that you care enough to spank him. Never let him forget to thank you for your efforts on his behalf. He should be very grateful you care enough about the strength of your relationship to spank him, and for all the attention and help you are giving him to help him in self-improvement, discipline, and endurance.


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